Melanie Stevenson

The Night That Changed Everything

Snow falls this hallowed eve, blanketing the earth with mounds of white, muting sound and creating the kind of silent night we sing about this time of year. Two thousand years after the extraordinary night Christ was born, we slip on our coats and mitts to trudge down the hill to our stone-steepled church in the square. Others join the nighttime parade, their voices mingling with the hundred-year-old bells clanging carols through the frosty air. The stained-glass windows glow with rich, subdued colour, the panes depicting the promise of God’s embracing love.

As we descend the hill, snowflakes—each one its own miniature miracle—drift down from darkened sky, insulating the earth in quietness. Holiness. Sacredness. Hushing us like a baby in his mother’s arms. Silently covering the darkness with white as though mimicking what the Christ child born this night came to do. The miraculous night when heaven held its breath as the event that changed everything unfolded on earth.

Inside the church, our voices rise in greetings amid the flicker of candles and excitement. Centuries later, and even now, this is no ordinary night. Though not visible, the anticipation is palpable, as though the choir of angels’ voices echoes through time to mingle with the organ and our feeble attempts of praise. We stand beneath the nave’s beams, hewn by those whose faith preceded ours, our hearts kindled by His love, sinners made sacred by the Son.

On a night like this, when snowflakes fell and cattle called, God sent His Son to us. A night where pitch black fields, stretched before shepherds minding their sheep, were illuminated by God’s glory. When angels appeared and spoke to trembling humans to tell them of Christ’s birth. When a radiant light directed the star studiers to an unlikely town and baby. When a young, ordinary woman gave birth to the Saviour of the world in a room shared with animals. A night that changed everything. The night when the Promised One came to us.

An ordinary night turned holy night that left its mark on the world—by the calendar and the years—but also on our hearts. Once we experience such pure love—God’s love—we cannot be the same. Deep within us, like the illuminated shepherd’s field, we too are brightened by His love. Transformed by Love in human form, born that sacred night. His life that gives us life is a gift we tightly embrace.

Indeed, the greatest gift we will ever receive came in the form of a baby who reached through time and hearts and hurts to find us, and who entered our human existence to live alongside us. To do for us what we could never do for ourselves. To die in our place and rescue us.

Even now, the babe wrapped in blankets wraps his love around us. His love is infinitely enough—everything we search for and all we ever need. A purifying, sacrificial love that made a way for us to the Father and seeks to live with us. Love that never leaves us nor forsakes us. No other love can compare to this.

This Christmas, as we gather in churches and around tables and trees, may we thank God anew for the miraculous gift of Jesus, the divine gift of His love, and the gift of abundant life we have in Him both here and now and in the life to come. May we allow this season to kindle our faith, embrace God’s love more fully, and freely share that love with those around us. May we collectively praise God with arms and hearts open wide for what He did on the night that changed everything.

Missing the Miracle in Their Midst

Isn’t it tragic that when Jesus healed a man with a shriveled hand, the Pharisees failed to see the glory of God in their midst? So focused on their religious rule-keeping, they missed the miracle that Jesus performed before their eyes. They could have been astounded in awe, could have bowed down and worshipped him, but they not only missed the miracle, they missed the Messiah.


In case you need it, here’s a quick refresher of the story:

“On another Sabbath he went into the synagogue and was teaching, and a man was there whose right hand was shriveled.  The Pharisees and the teachers of the law were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal on the Sabbath.  But Jesus knew what they were thinking and said to the man with the shriveled hand, “Get up and stand in front of everyone.” So he got up and stood there. Then Jesus said to them, “I ask you, which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to destroy it?” He looked around at them all, and then said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He did so, and his hand was completely restored.  But the Pharisees and the teachers of the law were furious and began to discuss with one another what they might do to Jesus.” (Luke 6:6-10)


Jesus defies the religious rules to heal a man’s withered hand on a Sunday, his love superseding all man-made laws in favor of healing mankind. Imagine, right before their eyes a shriveled hand becomes whole. Instead of praising Jesus and worshipping in wonder the God who made them and remade this man, the Pharisees stood before the Maker of Heaven and Earth finding fault and seeking to accuse him.


So full to the brim on religion that they couldn’t see God in their midst. They missed the very thing that they were upholding, the very One who could have set them free, by being blinded and bound by rule-following. Tragically, their religion left no room for compassion or loving action and made no space for healing to wholeness, or even God himself.

They missed the miracle and the Messiah.


How many times do we miss the miracle in our midst, miss the very presence of Jesus because we are busy and burdened upholding religion instead of resting in the reality of relationship with Jesus? How often do we miss the miraculous, everyday gifts God lays at our feet, even his very presence, by our rigidity, stubbornness, or pride?


When we come to Jesus, or when he comes to us, it isn’t with a set of prescribed rules to follow, but with unconditional love and forgiveness and an invitation to a life of wholeness. It’s not a list of regimented behaviors to gain God’s favor or forgiveness. Far from religion, or a brand of rule-keeping redemption, it’s the free gift of a spacious life of freedom with God.


God’s love is not earned by keeping a set of rules, but by the simple act of confessing our sin and receiving his forgiveness through Jesus His Son, sent to save all humanity—not the select few perfect rule keepers (as if that were possible). This also is a miracle… something only God can do. We cannot save ourselves through habitual rule abiding or being a good person (also impossible), but merely by simple child-like faith.


Picture life with Jesus as a child being swung in the air by his father, heels kicking high into the sky. A father gently taking the wide-eyed child’s hand and patiently speaking to her, telling her things too wonderful to fathom. A father teaching his son side by side, moment by moment, showing him how to live. A father bending to look the child full in the face and saying, “I love you no matter what.” A child forgiven for their wrongs and rebellion over and over again. And a fearful or bewildered child held throughout life’s storms. A father who never abandons his kids.


I ask myself, how many times have I missed Jesus in my midst? Too rushed, too full of fret or regret, too caught up in how things should be to see the miracle before me—his presence with me. How many times have I failed to see the many ways he is miraculously working things for my good and his glory even when they appear hopeless? How many times have I wanted Jesus to follow my rules and do things on my prescribed timeline?

How often have I missed his still small voice that beckons me to enter his rest, to embrace his peace, to abide in his loving presence, and be comforted in his ever-open-to-receive-me arms of love? To join hands with the miracle-maker who shows me a spacious way aside from petty religious rules.


What would it look like for us to link arms with the One who can repair withered hands, hearts, and lives? The One who brings the dead back to full life? The One who died to give us life everlasting?


Jesus is not only within reach; he is within your very midst.

“Come to me , all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” ~Matthew 11:28

To ponder:

  1. In what ways am I choosing religion over Christ?
  2. Is there a withered part of my life that I can hold out to Christ for healing?
  3. Have I trusted Jesus for my salvation, or al I still trying to follow the rules?

My Novella, “Where My Heart Belongs” is a Selah finalist!

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Celebrate the Season: I’ll Be Home Christmas Anthology is Here!

This week, something rather special occurred—the release of the Fab Four Christmas anthology, I’ll Be Home, a compilation of four novellas of faith, hope, love… and trains.

This collection is the birth of an idea, tossed out last spring during one of our road trips, now released into the world. It is a combined work of creativity, comradery, and companionship, and a physical reminder that we don’t do life alone, that we are better together, both with other creatives and with our Creator.

I’ll Be Home

Four Contemporary Christmas Novellas of Faith, Hope, Love (and Trains).

Who are the Fab Four? We are four authors who were thrown together by what some may call “chance” but who we call God. As the description appears at the front of our anthology, “We jokingly refer to ourselves as the Fab Four, a group of authors God has beautifully knit together. We have become so much more than writers; we’ve become dear friends.”

Prior to this group of ladies, writing had been a rather solitary venture for me. I had attended a few Write Canada conferences, but, for many years, had been plodding, or “plotting” away on my own. It wasn’t until three other writers (three of the Fab Four—thus why I’ve labeled myself the “four” in our group) invited me to a writer’s retreat in Niagara that things came together. These ladies encouraged me to come with them to a couple of writers’ conferences in the States (Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference and the American Christian Fiction Writers Conference in St. Louis), and the rest, as they say, is history.

Almost two years later, here we are launching, I’ll Be Home.

You never know what a singular choice to step out of your comfort zone might lead to. This was preempted by choosing “fearless” as my word of the year in 2019. After that, I kept going. Whenever I could, I pressed the override button on fear. Ever since, when an opportunity that scares me comes across my path, be it something as simple as complimenting a stranger, trying something new or outside my comfort zone, and, yes, going to a writer’s event, I embrace it. That shift has had a significant impact on my life and because of it, I’m telling you about a book collaboration with these excellent female writers and friends, that released this week.

Our writing reflects our unique differences. Helen wrote a historical, Sara a romance, Darlene a cozy mystery, and I wrote a rom-com. There’s something for everyone, and all are feel-good Christmas stories written to spread a little warmth, joy, and even a few smiles this Christmas.

Where My Heart Belongs

by Melanie Stevenson

“Where My Heart Belongs is a joyous, heart-stirring, mug-of-hot-chocolate-with-whipped-cream-and-marshmallows of a story, and a definite highlight of this wonderful Christmas collection. The fact that it’s set in Quebec is even more special, reviving fond memories for this Canada-loving author and reader. I loved it.”

– Carolyn Miller, award-winning author of the Original Six and Muskoka Romance Series


My novella is a fun rom com entitled, “Where My Heart Belongs”. Here is the back cover copy:

When dreams take a detour, love finds its way.
Having given up the better part of her twenties climbing the corporate ladder and crushing on her dashing boss, Porsha jumps on the opportunity to impress him by giving a keynote speech, even if it is in a language she hasn’t spoken since high school. One obstacle after another to getting a promotion (not to mention gaining her boss’s affection) stacks up, and her Christmas plans quickly unravel. When she bumps into a handsome, bell-ringing street Santa, not only her plans but her entire life just might change.

We’ve had some excellent reviews from readers and are so excited about this collection. We hope you will love the first book from the Fab Four!

Keep doing what scares you. You never know where it will lead!

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Embracing Life’s Seasons

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” ~ Eccleciates 3:1

Summer yawned into Fall this year, hesitant to depart and lazily lounging over the shortening sunshiney days. It warmly greeted me for coffee on the porch and lingered in the cricket-chorused evenings. Even now, as I peer out my window while writing this, I question its impending departure.

The seasons where I live in Ontario, Canada, are pronounced. I don’t mean we sound them out clearly, but they each have specific characteristics. Fall is a vibrant cacophony of color contrasted with blazing blue skies and crisp, fire-smoke-infused air. But this year, Summer has been reluctant to pass the baton to Fall.

Though on the cusp of Thanksgiving weekend in Canada, the leaves have been slow to change on our quaint street. A few early dissenters dust the sidewalk, but most appear full of chlorophyll and clinging to the branches. I imagine, in a couple more weeks, once the summer relents and the frost arrives, there will be a riot of color and the frenzy of falling leaves. Until then, I’ll take every opportunity to enjoy lunch outside with friends and collect a few bonus morning coffees on the porch, embracing every last sun-kissed day.

Not only do I prefer the warm, endless summer days, but I also prefer “summer-like” conditions in my life. Given the choice, I’d remain in the sunshine, wrapped in warmth and comfort. But those fair-weather conditions aren’t always conducive to resiliency and personal growth, are they? Sometimes, they render us complacent. Just as much as we need seasons of flourishing beauty, we also need letting-go seasons, biting-cold winters, and spring-like restarts.

Whether we like it or not, our lives are full of varying seasons. Even though we’re partial to some more than others, all must be traversed to encourage growth. The problem is, sometimes, we refuse to let go of a season. We, like this summer, overstay. We fail to see that we must move on to the next season with its distinct features. Instead, we cling to comfort and refuse to launch into the newness that awaits.

The reason, if we’re honest, is that we’re often fearful of change. We’re afraid of the unknown on the other side of this season. Sometimes, we worry that the current season will never depart or the next may be even worse. Other times, though the season changes, we’re stuck in the old one, pursuing what is perishing or wallowing in the dark chill of winter.

When I hang on to a season that has passed, it signals a lack of trust (aka. fear), thanklessness, willfulness, or bitterness. I may have failed to embrace the aspects the season was meant to offer; even more, I may have failed to embrace the One who offers His hand to traverse it.

What would it look like to embrace the season we find ourselves in and then release it when it has passed? How changed would we be if we stopped chasing after falling leaves, bemoaning what we lack, or complaining about where we find ourselves? How might we allow this present season to transform us? And what would it look like to bravely step into the next one?

As we approach Thanksgiving, can we find thankfulness for all life’s seasons? Not lagging behind, not rushing ahead, but in step with Jesus. Can we trust that God has a purpose and plan for every season and that our only aim is to remain with him throughout every one?

May God be all you need as you cling to Him during this season of your life.

Reflections:

  1. Make a list of things you can be thankful for during this season of your life.
  2. Make a list of the things you are having difficulty letting go of.
  3. Take some time to release what needs to be released, and thank God for all you have been given.

I Should Sit on Benches More Often

Have you noticed that often, the extraordinary is tucked between the ordinary and mundane? A bee pocketing pollen as it flits from flower to flower. A child’s laughter amid the strain of a long day of bewildered parenting. The sun that creates never-two-the-same sunsets. This phenomenon was punctuated a few weeks ago when I attended the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writer’s Conference in North Carolina. While there, something notable occurred—something holy injected into the commonplace.

I spotted a sun-soaked bench on my way to the auditorium for an evening session. I let my writer friends go ahead, favoring a moment in the late-day sun over a dark auditorium, and angled my body sideways on the bench toward the sun. Its warmth soaked my skin and soul. A segment of the six hundred writers attending the event filed past while I lingered in this sacred space.

I might have kept my eyes closed, my head tipped to the sun in silent retreat from the masses, but someone spoke to me in passing, commenting on what a lovely spot I’d found. Another similarly mentioned the sun’s beauty. I could hear the ache of longing in their voice and wouldn’t have been a bit surprised if they had chosen to join me.

I outran my introversion and decided to make eye contact with everyone who passed, intentionally greeting each one and embracing the fleeting exchanges between us. I felt like an unofficial welcoming committee of one. There were countless hellos and comments regarding my spot in the sun. Someone declared that I looked peaceful. A lady commented on how much she liked my shoes, another my outfit. The number of remarks was overwhelming and wonderful. All because I sat on the bench. All because I chose to see people and them me.

Then, a woman paused and placed her backpack at the end of the bench. We shared a hello and a few other words, and, in uncharacteristic boldness, I told her how adorable she was. She asked if she might join me for a moment, and I became the grateful recipient of disclosed deposits of heartache and beauty in a sacred exchange on a bench. I also made a new friend.

I was left marveling that one seemingly insignificant decision to linger could impress such an impact on me, both from the passing crowd and this individual. She and I saw each other throughout the coming days, and I said, “I should sit on benches more often,” in reference to having met her and discovering anew the marvelous way a simple hello, a word, or a smile has the capacity for mutual transformation. Holy exchanges, like mini miracles, deposited between the ordinary. Easy to miss if you’re too busy or not paying attention.

It occurs to me that Jesus was the bench-sitting type. How comforting that God-made-human would choose to tarry for others rather than rush to his next location. He paused to speak to the woman at the well, to call a sinner out of a tree and a bleeding woman out of the crowd. He paused to restore a blind man’s sight, sat for meals with sinners, and remained seated while a prostitute washed his feet with her tears. Others cried out to him, and he stopped to heal them. Thirty-four years ago, he did the same for me.

And so, in our ill-fitting garments of this weary world, may we be bench-sitters who allow room in our schedules to pause and sit a while. May we not let people pass by unseen but be those who slip off our sandals to make sacred space for the holy and miraculous in the midst of the ordinary.

May you be blessed to see miracles in the mundane.

Reflection:

  1. In what ways have you noticed holy in the mundane?
  2. What might happen if you became a bench-sitter and lingered with others a little longer?

Nurturing Growth & Beauty: Lessons from the Garden

This spring, my husband, daughter, and I, spent hours installing mulch in our garden beds. We worked in the blazing heat, my husband pushing wheelbarrow after wheelbarrow of mulch to various locations around our property while my daughter and I spread it over the dirt and around the plants.

To do this job properly, the garden beds must first be weeded otherwise you’re simply covering over the problem and those infuriating imposter plants will poke through the mulch. Even with prepped beds and mulch, the garden needs consistent care otherwise the pesky weeds will begin to take over.

In my garden, it’s not just the weeds. It’s my wisteria. For a period, I ignored it. It swallowed the back fence and devoured a post in the laneway. It even sent hungry shoots throughout my garden bed. As a result, I’m constantly having to cut it back to try to prevent it from completely taking over though it could be argued it already has! 

The same is true in our lives. It takes diligence to not let weeds take over the soil of our lives. We don’t cover over the weeds and pretend they’re not there—eventually they will poke out of the surface. If the unlovely or wild things don’t get dug up or pruned, they will eventually crowd out the lovely. 

Jesus says, “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit, he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.” (John 15:1-2)

As it is in my garden, this pruning seems to be a constant activity in my life. Weed-like things I would have ignored, covered over, or allowed to grow wild need to be removed. But God, the Master Gardener, partners with me walking through the garden and showing me what needs to go. Sometimes, he points out things that are overgrown and we work to remove them side by side. Other times he just goes ahead and yanks them out before they choke out the good.

Some of the things he pulls out or chops off don’t appear all that important. Surely there must be worse things needing attention. But in his wisdom, he knows which to tackle first. Like the wisteria that started as a small vine but now runs the risk of taking over, the same applies in my life.

During these times, I need to remember that God knows what needs to come out and when. He also knows what is to be nurtured to create beauty for things to flourish in my life, and I must trust the uprooting or painful, pruning process. But there’s something else.

Jesus says, “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5)

We not only trust the process, but we also remain in him. When we abide, we bear spiritual fruit and such things such as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self control spring up in the garden our of lives. Whatever is lovely will have room to properly take root and beauty will grow in our lives without being crowded out by the lesser things.

And as for the mulch, it’s like a blanket of God’s care placed over the top to help all the work that has been done to remain.

I bless you that you would remain in Christ and grow in beauty.

Reflection: Where do you see growth and beauty in your life?

The Messiness of Motherhood

Moms, you’re doing so much better than you think.

No one, except maybe you, expected you to be perfect.

The truth is, motherhood is messy. Very little of it is tidy. Not the birth, the innumerable diapers, or the soaked-through nursing pads. Not the scattered toys, countless crumbs, or the endless piles of laundry. Not the tears—oh the tears!—the meltdowns, or the sibling squabbles.

Nope, hardly perfect at all.

Of course, the illustrations on the baby cards alongside your anticipation may beguile you into believing that your rosy-cheeked infant will arrive a full-fledged angel. Or, like me, you prepped yourself by reading parenting material in advance, studying how to do this perfectly to ensure parenting success. But the moment those babies are born, you realize that all the books in the world could never fully prepare you for the lifelong journey of motherhood.

The awe you feel the moment your baby is tucked in your arms is immeasurable. Your heart soars with a love you never knew existed. You delight in every expression, melt with every sigh or coo, and applaud every milestone, until one day—so much sooner than you think—they are forging a life of their own. The truth is, the days until that day (some of which feel exhausting and long) take every ounce of our will to beat back selfishness and set aside our own desires. It takes self-control to exercise patience and gentleness. It takes superhuman strength to hold our emotions in check when we’re on the brink of losing our cool. It takes discernment to balance kindness and firmness in discipline, to be wise enough for each moment.

At times, especially when they are little, the days feel so long, but in reality, the years are incredibly short. Other times, discouragement, like thunder clouds, sets in and covers the light. We wonder if we have enough of whatever it takes for this mission. We bemoan all that we could have done better, and we wrestle with our doubts. When we grow weary and are about to give in to the berating voice that tells us we’re not capable enough, we discover GRACE.

Like a salve to a scraped knee, Grace permeates the not-good-enoughs, the messes, and the mistakes. Like a kiss to a child’s forehead, Grace soothes our aching hearts and weary spirits. It brushes away the clouds, and offers a lighted path, and strength to walk it. Grace tucks us in at the end of a draining day whispering to our spent souls, “Perfection is not required.”

And there’s LOVE. Like a warm hug to soothe and settle our souls, love saturates our spirit enough to pour out patience, kindness, and unselfishness. Love enables us to grow in humility. It looks for the good and builds our kids up. It slows down our impulse to grow angry and helps us be quick to forgive. It turns us away from darkness and helps us delight in the truth. It protects, trusts, never quits, and never loses hope. (see 1 Cor 13:4-7) Love is what every mother needs and what she freely gives.

And there’s JOY. It pins wings to our hearts and sets them alight in a breeze of laughter. It doesn’t clean up the messes but allows us to dance on tip-toe in between them. It splashes barefoot through the rain puddles alongside the child. It sings the song for the hundredth time as though the first, and plays on the floor until our jeans grow threadbare at the knees. Joy fills our hearts with wonder at the very sight of our child’s impish smile.

And there’s PEACE that flows through our being like gentle the ebb and flow of waves upon the shore. Soothing, constant, ever-present. We need only to dip in a toe and are touched. It’s there in the chubby-cheeked sleep of our infant, the squishy, squeezy hug from our toddler, and the bedtime books with our child nestled on our lap. It’s in the quiet nights when they didn’t wake up but we lay awake praising God that he entrusted us with their precious lives. It resides even in the chaos because the peace God gives isn’t dependent on circumstances.

There will be a multitude of messes throughout motherhood, but only one who is qualified to fully clean them up. Without God’s help, I might have squandered the treasure of motherhood by being too busy. As it was, I came perilously close and stuffed our schedules by saying yes too often and racing to all sorts of activities. I might have exchanged motherhood for the perpetually perfect house—ours was full of homeschool books, science projects, shoes, and toys! Worst of all, I may have tried to create perfect, cookie-cutter kids. All I needed to do was to rest in God’s grace, love, joy, and peace, available on a moment-by-moment basis. I needed to continue to trust the One who made our kids and gave them to us to raise. Who knew that all along it was that simple?

Once a mother, always a mother, they say. Even in the messes and mayhem, I wouldn’t have it any other way! As much as I wanted to be perfect, I reflect that despite my imperfections, and maybe even because of them, my kids are thoughtful and compassionate, beautifully unique and creative, and treat others with kindness and respect. But like me, and their upbringing, they aren’t perfect.

Our family with the grandbabies

By God’s grace and love, we raise our kids as well as we can, with the tools at our disposal. We raise them alongside the messes and the broken and bright bits. If I could change anything, I would have trusted God more and worried less. Two of our four children remain under our roof for now, and Ralph and I are grandparents (a much easier gig!), so it appears I still have some years to practice!

To you, sweet mom, also doing the best you can, I’m cheering you on while repeating the words I started with: you’re doing so much better than you think.

I leave this list to encourage you in your mothering journey:

  1. Receive God’s grace.
  2. Soak in his love.
  3. Experience his joy.
  4. Accept his peace.
  5. Pray continually.
  6. Listen to His words.
  7. Move by His strength.
  8. Live by faith, not by sight.
  9. Don’t lose hope.
  10. Trust him with the process.
  11. Invite him into the messes.
  12. Love fiercely.

I bless you in your journey through motherhood. May you find the strength you need for every moment through Christ.

Keep Creating. Don’t Stop Doing Your Brave Thing.

Writing can be a rather solitary occupation, and mostly, that has suited me quite well. Events like writer’s conferences, meetings, and retreats have been a stretch for me because they nudge me out of my introverted cave. Remarkably, four times in the past four months, I’ve gathered with Canadian authors at various writing retreats. It’s been a game-changer—inspiring, encouraging, and educational, not to mention a much-needed reminder that writers need each other.

Eden Mills Writer’s Retreat -Feb 25 & 26, 2023

Each of us requires our share of encouragement and healthy feedback, don’t we? To be cheered on, to be told our work has worth, and that what we do has the makings of beauty—the fingerprints of our creator himself—is what gives it meaning. In essence, we desire to know that we’re making a difference. And whether we use words, paint, numbers, tools, instruments, or equipment, we delight to know that the work of our hands is impacting this world for good.

This past December, I ran into a Music Professor I used to work alongside at our former church. He paused to speak to me before heading on stage to play a magnificent, hundred-year-old organ. We had no sooner begun chatting when he handed me an unsolicited compliment by saying, “You are the most creative person I know.” Though I am confident he is surrounded by extraordinary creatives at the college, and that his mind should have been preoccupied with the complex instrument he was about to play, his impeccably-timed encouragement breathed life into my spirit.

Brantford Writer’s Retreat – February 7, 2023

Much like the Professor’s compliment, these writing retreats have encouraged me and served as much-needed reminders to keep going. The life-giving words of other writers, offering direction and creative insight during our brainstorming sessions, have reignited my passion for writing and unearthed the motivation I needed to move forward after a sluggish year. It was more than I had expected when I took the chance and said yes to these invitations. And… I’ve said yes to three more including The Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writer’s Conference in North Carolina this spring.

Niagara Falls Writer’s Retreat – January 12-17, 2023

But isn’t it just like God to step in and offer practical help or reassurance? I’ve noticed God often uses others to accomplish his purposes—his people acting as an extension of his hands and feet on earth. God encourages us in other ways too. He teaches us, guides us, comforts us, and directs us through his word, Spirit, and even circumstances. He uses these varying methods to ensure we are not only held and directed but, in my case, don’t remain in a solitary writing cave!

I chose the word BRAVE as my 2023 word of the year. In 2020, I chose FEARLESS. Obviously, they are virtually the same—I like words so much I merely defaulted to a synonym—but I needed another crack at being fearless. Practice makes perfect… and all that. I also chose a couple of verses for the year for added inspiration. Feel free to borrow them if you like. I’ve left them at the end of this blog.

Refocus Writing Retreat – Guelph Bible Conference Centre – November 7-10, 2022

All this to say, my encouragement to you (and me) this year is to keep going! Your talents, skills, and creativity make a difference and bring beauty to this world, and, believe me, this world is aching for more beauty! And don’t be fooled into thinking that only the arts are creative. God made us in his image, and humans are innately creative. Mathematicians, scientists, architects, and business people (to mention only a few) creatively solve problems while creating newness and beauty all the time.

This year, join me in throwing off discouragement and disillusionment and bravely using what we have at our disposal to deposit beauty in this world.

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9.

“May he grant you according to your heart’s desire and fulfill all your purpose.” Psalm 20:4

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Reflections:

  1. What are you putting off doing because of fear?
  2. What is one brave step you can take today?
  3. How can you create beauty in this world with your gifts and skills?

Check out the works of the Candian authors who attended these retreats:

  1. Sara Davison http://saradavison.org
  2. Helena Smrcek http://helenasmrcek.com
  3. Darlene Turner darlenelturner.com
  4. Sandra Orchard sandraorchard.com
  5. Stacy Weeks staceyweeks.com
  6. Tara Ross tarakross.com
  7. Olivia Zendo oliviazendo.com
  8. Sandy Ryerse sandyryerse.com
  9. Karen DeBlieck karendebliek.com

The Journal Journeys Excerpt #3 – Does Prayer Make a Difference?

Ever wondered if your prayers make a difference? Does it matter if you pray at all? Why does it seem that there are so many unanswered prayers? Is prayer even necessary?

Over the years, I have come to believe that all prayer is answered prayer.

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Often in prayer, we ask for a specific resolution to a problem, plead for a circumstance to alter or a person to change. We wish to be quickly rescued from discomfort, airlifted out of a trial, and have peace in our relationships.

But God is after the best. The trouble is that his idea of best doesn’t always match ours.

God is present in every situation we face. He says he never leaves us or forsakes us (Deut 31:6), and we can be sure he hears all our prayers. We may misinterpret answers when a situation fails to improve as rapidly as we’d like, appears to fail altogether, or we don’t see a specific answer to our supplication. At such times, I choose to believe that God loves us too much to give us all we pray for, exactly when we pray for it if he knows it isn’t his best or isn’t best for us.

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Over the past six weeks, I’ve been enjoying prayer walks in nature.

Perhaps other times God remains quiet, or delays answering, in order to produce something of great value within us—increased faith and trust, perseverance, repentance, deep inner healing, and a character that reflects his.

What if the no’s are really delayed yes’s for something far greater and more beautiful than we could have asked for or imagined? A more complete work? At times it appears God holds back and allows something to die so he can beautifully resurrect it (see John 11:1-44). Though we may regard this as silence or unanswered prayer, it is an incredibly loving act on God’s behalf that allows room for the miraculous and God to be glorified. Though he’d rather we trust him, God can handle our disappointment, disillusionment, frustration, and fear for his greater purposes.

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Our family in 2016, the year this week’s prayer journal entry was written.

Could the no’s also be God’s loving protection, keeping us safe from sure disaster? God knows the beginning from the end, knows every detail about us, our hearts, and the situation. He alone knows whether or not our desires will cause us to prosper, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I’m sure there are times he lovingly withholds what we think is good for our own good.

The no’s, or delayed answers, also give us the opportunity to align our will with his and gain a Godly perspective. They give us time to adjust our hearts to a posture of thankfulness.

There are also times when our troubles reflect our choices, and God allows the natural progression of cause and effect as a result of our sin. He also shows mercy and comes to our aid when we repent and pray. To hear the story of how God answered my prayers when I was in physical pain see Moving Mountains.

It’s easy to forget that prayer isn’t just asking things of God. In prayer, we seek God and acknowledge his presence like we would anyone we desire to spend time with. Since he is holy, we praise him and declare him worthy. We acknowledge our failings and ask for forgiveness. We trust him with our troubles knowing he is all-powerful and in control of all that appears chaotic. We hand over our fears and concerns to him for safekeeping.

When I first became a Christian, I learned a helpful acronym—ACTS: Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, and Supplication.  Though I don’t always follow this guide, it can be a useful tool to aid prayer.

Over the years, I added meditation, which for me is a time of quiet, a chance to rest with God and listen. Perhaps I should change the acronym to ACTS+M. This part of prayer allows silent space for God to awaken me to his spirit, whisper into my own spirit, refuel me with his joy, spark an idea, enliven or a verse, or alter my perspective or my heart.

All prayer is answered prayer. It may not arrive in the form we imagined, but it will be in the form God desires.

This week in the Journal Journeys, I read a few thoughts on prayer from my prayer journal. Click here for a video of this week’s excerpt. You can also read an abbreviated version below.

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Excerpt from my prayer journal from February 28, 2016

Feb 28, 2016

“At the beginning of your supplications the command went out, and I have come to tell you, for you are greatly beloved…” (Daniel 9:23)

“Then he said to me, ‘Do not fear Daniel, for from the first day that you set your heart to understand, and to humble yourself before your God, your words were heard; and I have come because of your words.'” (Daniel 10:12)

Lord, 

This is such a beautiful segment of scripture, reminding us that God hears our prayers, and is working on our behalf. Our prayers—our words—are powerful. God hears them. 

Some may wonder, as I have at times, why pray? God will do what he wants anyway. But here (Daniel 9:20-23 & 10:12) we see illustrated that prayer makes a difference. Daniel is confessing his sin, has a repentant heart, and is asking God to forgive them. These kinds of prayers shift things. 

The angel was caused to fly swiftly and the command went out at the beginning of his supplications. And notice that the angel says, “I have come to tell you, for you are greatly loved.” It is a beautiful affirmation to know that we are loved, even though we grapple with sin. Our sin may distance us from God, but it does not change the truth that we are greatly loved by him.

Lord, thank you for showing me this. It is a poignant reminder that you hear my prayers. And though I may not ever see the spiritual forces acting behind the scenes, I can rest assured that you are working all things for good.

Thank you.

Amen

For more reading on prayer, see Un)Answered Prayers

 

The Journal Journeys Excerpt #2: God Restores

This week, I’ve taken an excerpt from my prayer journal that refers to a lengthy trial in our lives where we were praying for God’s help and intervention. The prayer records my thankfulness to God.

Through this struggle and many others, God deepened my faith and trust in him. So often He has been my only hope. I have faced countless situations that rose before me like an impenetrable mountain, but God, my great navigator, forged a path and lead me as he has time and time again.

So often I marvel at the way he does this. In the thick of the trial, I cannot fathom the outcome. My emotions bully my outlook. My circumstances appear hopeless. I clutch at my fragile faith attempting to hang on to the truth. Doubts descend, yet God promises to be with me and never forsake me, so why do I fear? And why am I surprised when he works the miraculous?

When I jump for joy and praise God at his answered prayers, is he disappointed with my lack of faith or does he take pleasure in my wonder and thanksgiving? Whichever the case, his love is greater than my fears and faithlessness. His arms are always open. I have full assurance of his unfailing love no matter in which state I come to him.

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And so I keep showing up, keep writing and speaking prayers to the One who wraps me safely in his arms and makes all things not only possible but beautiful in their time. The same God can do likewise in your difficulties.

Bring your impossibilities to God. Release them to him, and watch what he will do.

“With God nothing is impossible.” (Luke 1:37)

Click here to hear me read excerpt #2 “God Restores”

January 31, 2016

Lord,

You are greatly to be praised. You have done marvelous, mighty works on our behalf, so surprized us—I am still trying to absorb how thoroughly you have restored things. Despite all the odds, you alone can be praised for this complete turn of events. It is a miracle—something only you could do.

Thank you for your gentle, lovingkindness, so sweet towards us. Despite my deep disappointment, you remain the same. You don’t change. Your love is not dependant on our behavior. You can handle us being disappointed or doubtful because you were up to something better and know I don’t fully understand your ways.

I’m sorry. Please forgive me for all of that. I thought I had faith, but I suppose it was on my terms, as in, as long as my prayers are answered and things go my way, I’m good. But again I see that you lead us to deeper faith. You ask us to trust you when we cannot see any way before us. Look how you provided so entirely and completely! At every turn, every bleak moment. You gave us all we needed.

“You have done great things; O God, who is like you?” Psalm 71:19

Thank you, Father, for all you have done, the many ways you have tenderly cared for and carried us. You are greatly to be praised! I love and trust you. Thy will be done.

Amen.

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Our family together on Mother’s Day 2020

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