Melanie Stevenson

The Night That Changed Everything

Snow falls this hallowed eve, blanketing the earth with mounds of white, muting sound and creating the kind of silent night we sing about this time of year. Two thousand years after the extraordinary night Christ was born, we slip on our coats and mitts to trudge down the hill to our stone-steepled church in the square. Others join the nighttime parade, their voices mingling with the hundred-year-old bells clanging carols through the frosty air. The stained-glass windows glow with rich, subdued colour, the panes depicting the promise of God’s embracing love.

As we descend the hill, snowflakes—each one its own miniature miracle—drift down from darkened sky, insulating the earth in quietness. Holiness. Sacredness. Hushing us like a baby in his mother’s arms. Silently covering the darkness with white as though mimicking what the Christ child born this night came to do. The miraculous night when heaven held its breath as the event that changed everything unfolded on earth.

Inside the church, our voices rise in greetings amid the flicker of candles and excitement. Centuries later, and even now, this is no ordinary night. Though not visible, the anticipation is palpable, as though the choir of angels’ voices echoes through time to mingle with the organ and our feeble attempts of praise. We stand beneath the nave’s beams, hewn by those whose faith preceded ours, our hearts kindled by His love, sinners made sacred by the Son.

On a night like this, when snowflakes fell and cattle called, God sent His Son to us. A night where pitch black fields, stretched before shepherds minding their sheep, were illuminated by God’s glory. When angels appeared and spoke to trembling humans to tell them of Christ’s birth. When a radiant light directed the star studiers to an unlikely town and baby. When a young, ordinary woman gave birth to the Saviour of the world in a room shared with animals. A night that changed everything. The night when the Promised One came to us.

An ordinary night turned holy night that left its mark on the world—by the calendar and the years—but also on our hearts. Once we experience such pure love—God’s love—we cannot be the same. Deep within us, like the illuminated shepherd’s field, we too are brightened by His love. Transformed by Love in human form, born that sacred night. His life that gives us life is a gift we tightly embrace.

Indeed, the greatest gift we will ever receive came in the form of a baby who reached through time and hearts and hurts to find us, and who entered our human existence to live alongside us. To do for us what we could never do for ourselves. To die in our place and rescue us.

Even now, the babe wrapped in blankets wraps his love around us. His love is infinitely enough—everything we search for and all we ever need. A purifying, sacrificial love that made a way for us to the Father and seeks to live with us. Love that never leaves us nor forsakes us. No other love can compare to this.

This Christmas, as we gather in churches and around tables and trees, may we thank God anew for the miraculous gift of Jesus, the divine gift of His love, and the gift of abundant life we have in Him both here and now and in the life to come. May we allow this season to kindle our faith, embrace God’s love more fully, and freely share that love with those around us. May we collectively praise God with arms and hearts open wide for what He did on the night that changed everything.

Missing the Miracle in Their Midst

Isn’t it tragic that when Jesus healed a man with a shriveled hand, the Pharisees failed to see the glory of God in their midst? So focused on their religious rule-keeping, they missed the miracle that Jesus performed before their eyes. They could have been astounded in awe, could have bowed down and worshipped him, but they not only missed the miracle, they missed the Messiah.


In case you need it, here’s a quick refresher of the story:

“On another Sabbath he went into the synagogue and was teaching, and a man was there whose right hand was shriveled.  The Pharisees and the teachers of the law were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal on the Sabbath.  But Jesus knew what they were thinking and said to the man with the shriveled hand, “Get up and stand in front of everyone.” So he got up and stood there. Then Jesus said to them, “I ask you, which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to destroy it?” He looked around at them all, and then said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He did so, and his hand was completely restored.  But the Pharisees and the teachers of the law were furious and began to discuss with one another what they might do to Jesus.” (Luke 6:6-10)


Jesus defies the religious rules to heal a man’s withered hand on a Sunday, his love superseding all man-made laws in favor of healing mankind. Imagine, right before their eyes a shriveled hand becomes whole. Instead of praising Jesus and worshipping in wonder the God who made them and remade this man, the Pharisees stood before the Maker of Heaven and Earth finding fault and seeking to accuse him.


So full to the brim on religion that they couldn’t see God in their midst. They missed the very thing that they were upholding, the very One who could have set them free, by being blinded and bound by rule-following. Tragically, their religion left no room for compassion or loving action and made no space for healing to wholeness, or even God himself.

They missed the miracle and the Messiah.


How many times do we miss the miracle in our midst, miss the very presence of Jesus because we are busy and burdened upholding religion instead of resting in the reality of relationship with Jesus? How often do we miss the miraculous, everyday gifts God lays at our feet, even his very presence, by our rigidity, stubbornness, or pride?


When we come to Jesus, or when he comes to us, it isn’t with a set of prescribed rules to follow, but with unconditional love and forgiveness and an invitation to a life of wholeness. It’s not a list of regimented behaviors to gain God’s favor or forgiveness. Far from religion, or a brand of rule-keeping redemption, it’s the free gift of a spacious life of freedom with God.


God’s love is not earned by keeping a set of rules, but by the simple act of confessing our sin and receiving his forgiveness through Jesus His Son, sent to save all humanity—not the select few perfect rule keepers (as if that were possible). This also is a miracle… something only God can do. We cannot save ourselves through habitual rule abiding or being a good person (also impossible), but merely by simple child-like faith.


Picture life with Jesus as a child being swung in the air by his father, heels kicking high into the sky. A father gently taking the wide-eyed child’s hand and patiently speaking to her, telling her things too wonderful to fathom. A father teaching his son side by side, moment by moment, showing him how to live. A father bending to look the child full in the face and saying, “I love you no matter what.” A child forgiven for their wrongs and rebellion over and over again. And a fearful or bewildered child held throughout life’s storms. A father who never abandons his kids.


I ask myself, how many times have I missed Jesus in my midst? Too rushed, too full of fret or regret, too caught up in how things should be to see the miracle before me—his presence with me. How many times have I failed to see the many ways he is miraculously working things for my good and his glory even when they appear hopeless? How many times have I wanted Jesus to follow my rules and do things on my prescribed timeline?

How often have I missed his still small voice that beckons me to enter his rest, to embrace his peace, to abide in his loving presence, and be comforted in his ever-open-to-receive-me arms of love? To join hands with the miracle-maker who shows me a spacious way aside from petty religious rules.


What would it look like for us to link arms with the One who can repair withered hands, hearts, and lives? The One who brings the dead back to full life? The One who died to give us life everlasting?


Jesus is not only within reach; he is within your very midst.

“Come to me , all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” ~Matthew 11:28

To ponder:

  1. In what ways am I choosing religion over Christ?
  2. Is there a withered part of my life that I can hold out to Christ for healing?
  3. Have I trusted Jesus for my salvation, or al I still trying to follow the rules?

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Embracing Life’s Seasons

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” ~ Eccleciates 3:1

Summer yawned into Fall this year, hesitant to depart and lazily lounging over the shortening sunshiney days. It warmly greeted me for coffee on the porch and lingered in the cricket-chorused evenings. Even now, as I peer out my window while writing this, I question its impending departure.

The seasons where I live in Ontario, Canada, are pronounced. I don’t mean we sound them out clearly, but they each have specific characteristics. Fall is a vibrant cacophony of color contrasted with blazing blue skies and crisp, fire-smoke-infused air. But this year, Summer has been reluctant to pass the baton to Fall.

Though on the cusp of Thanksgiving weekend in Canada, the leaves have been slow to change on our quaint street. A few early dissenters dust the sidewalk, but most appear full of chlorophyll and clinging to the branches. I imagine, in a couple more weeks, once the summer relents and the frost arrives, there will be a riot of color and the frenzy of falling leaves. Until then, I’ll take every opportunity to enjoy lunch outside with friends and collect a few bonus morning coffees on the porch, embracing every last sun-kissed day.

Not only do I prefer the warm, endless summer days, but I also prefer “summer-like” conditions in my life. Given the choice, I’d remain in the sunshine, wrapped in warmth and comfort. But those fair-weather conditions aren’t always conducive to resiliency and personal growth, are they? Sometimes, they render us complacent. Just as much as we need seasons of flourishing beauty, we also need letting-go seasons, biting-cold winters, and spring-like restarts.

Whether we like it or not, our lives are full of varying seasons. Even though we’re partial to some more than others, all must be traversed to encourage growth. The problem is, sometimes, we refuse to let go of a season. We, like this summer, overstay. We fail to see that we must move on to the next season with its distinct features. Instead, we cling to comfort and refuse to launch into the newness that awaits.

The reason, if we’re honest, is that we’re often fearful of change. We’re afraid of the unknown on the other side of this season. Sometimes, we worry that the current season will never depart or the next may be even worse. Other times, though the season changes, we’re stuck in the old one, pursuing what is perishing or wallowing in the dark chill of winter.

When I hang on to a season that has passed, it signals a lack of trust (aka. fear), thanklessness, willfulness, or bitterness. I may have failed to embrace the aspects the season was meant to offer; even more, I may have failed to embrace the One who offers His hand to traverse it.

What would it look like to embrace the season we find ourselves in and then release it when it has passed? How changed would we be if we stopped chasing after falling leaves, bemoaning what we lack, or complaining about where we find ourselves? How might we allow this present season to transform us? And what would it look like to bravely step into the next one?

As we approach Thanksgiving, can we find thankfulness for all life’s seasons? Not lagging behind, not rushing ahead, but in step with Jesus. Can we trust that God has a purpose and plan for every season and that our only aim is to remain with him throughout every one?

May God be all you need as you cling to Him during this season of your life.

Reflections:

  1. Make a list of things you can be thankful for during this season of your life.
  2. Make a list of the things you are having difficulty letting go of.
  3. Take some time to release what needs to be released, and thank God for all you have been given.

I Should Sit on Benches More Often

Have you noticed that often, the extraordinary is tucked between the ordinary and mundane? A bee pocketing pollen as it flits from flower to flower. A child’s laughter amid the strain of a long day of bewildered parenting. The sun that creates never-two-the-same sunsets. This phenomenon was punctuated a few weeks ago when I attended the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writer’s Conference in North Carolina. While there, something notable occurred—something holy injected into the commonplace.

I spotted a sun-soaked bench on my way to the auditorium for an evening session. I let my writer friends go ahead, favoring a moment in the late-day sun over a dark auditorium, and angled my body sideways on the bench toward the sun. Its warmth soaked my skin and soul. A segment of the six hundred writers attending the event filed past while I lingered in this sacred space.

I might have kept my eyes closed, my head tipped to the sun in silent retreat from the masses, but someone spoke to me in passing, commenting on what a lovely spot I’d found. Another similarly mentioned the sun’s beauty. I could hear the ache of longing in their voice and wouldn’t have been a bit surprised if they had chosen to join me.

I outran my introversion and decided to make eye contact with everyone who passed, intentionally greeting each one and embracing the fleeting exchanges between us. I felt like an unofficial welcoming committee of one. There were countless hellos and comments regarding my spot in the sun. Someone declared that I looked peaceful. A lady commented on how much she liked my shoes, another my outfit. The number of remarks was overwhelming and wonderful. All because I sat on the bench. All because I chose to see people and them me.

Then, a woman paused and placed her backpack at the end of the bench. We shared a hello and a few other words, and, in uncharacteristic boldness, I told her how adorable she was. She asked if she might join me for a moment, and I became the grateful recipient of disclosed deposits of heartache and beauty in a sacred exchange on a bench. I also made a new friend.

I was left marveling that one seemingly insignificant decision to linger could impress such an impact on me, both from the passing crowd and this individual. She and I saw each other throughout the coming days, and I said, “I should sit on benches more often,” in reference to having met her and discovering anew the marvelous way a simple hello, a word, or a smile has the capacity for mutual transformation. Holy exchanges, like mini miracles, deposited between the ordinary. Easy to miss if you’re too busy or not paying attention.

It occurs to me that Jesus was the bench-sitting type. How comforting that God-made-human would choose to tarry for others rather than rush to his next location. He paused to speak to the woman at the well, to call a sinner out of a tree and a bleeding woman out of the crowd. He paused to restore a blind man’s sight, sat for meals with sinners, and remained seated while a prostitute washed his feet with her tears. Others cried out to him, and he stopped to heal them. Thirty-four years ago, he did the same for me.

And so, in our ill-fitting garments of this weary world, may we be bench-sitters who allow room in our schedules to pause and sit a while. May we not let people pass by unseen but be those who slip off our sandals to make sacred space for the holy and miraculous in the midst of the ordinary.

May you be blessed to see miracles in the mundane.

Reflection:

  1. In what ways have you noticed holy in the mundane?
  2. What might happen if you became a bench-sitter and lingered with others a little longer?

Ingredients For Life

Tonight, while making dinner, I realized that following a recipe is a lot like our journey through life. At first, it can feel a little overwhelming, but we just have to begin. We gather what we have and lay it out on the table. We aren’t sure about the end result and realize we can’t do everything at once (even the best chefs can’t manage that). Instead, we move through it one step at a time. 

The recipe might display a picture of the finished dish, but we don’t have the luxury of knowing in advance how our time here will play out. Wouldn’t it be nice to know in advance the precise mixture to avoid missteps, eradicate fear, and create a perfect life? We may not be handed an exact recipe, but we do have some choices regarding which ingredients we use.

Some reach for ingredients like money, degrees, friendships, or pets. Others may seek out adventure, travel, hobbies, or volunteering. While these are wonderful spices to add to life, fragrant blessings to breathe in, they shouldn’t be all there is to the mixture. If they are, the recipe will be incomplete, void of the most needed ingredient.

All the friends, toys, or travel, all the goals reached or time given for a good cause can still leave us feeling empty. If not empty, our life may not be nearly as flavourful or nourishing as it could be. No person or passion can fully satisfy our hunger. Too often we leave out the critical ingredient to our life’s mixture.

We make all the plans, go to all the places, eat all the fancy foods, but disregard the One who created everything as far as the eye can see. In our flurry to consume all we can, we overlook the most important ingredient in the recipe for life—we overlook God. 

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We can never ingest enough of the world’s offerings, however decadent, to make us feel full. We may listen to all the epicurean gurus, devour every good thing, add all the spices, but our lives continue to taste bland. The truth is, we often don’t even know what’s missing until we add the most important One. Only then do we wonder how we could have gone on so long never experiencing this integral ingredient—relationship with God.

For me, knowing God made all the difference. He substituted some of the ingredients I was using making the mixture exceedingly better. Even with Him, I can’t manage to concoct a perfect life, but at least I have help and guidance on the journey. Connected to Him, my taste buds have changed. Many of the delicacies I used to enjoy no longer seem quite so sweet, but the important ones taste so much better. 

With Him, I have access to ingredients such as joy, peace, and love, and others such as patience, kindness, and compassion. He hasn’t given me a whole recipe card to follow, no step-by-step guide to the perfect life, but He has given me His Word, the Bible, which helps me to navigate life. He’s also promised to never leave me. His presence has been profoundly encouraging and comforting through the difficult bits. Mess-ups still occur, but He helps me to throw out the rotten stuff and start over.

At the end of my life, I trust that whatever God helped me make will be life-giving. That the things He was a part of will nourish others and give them strength for their journey. I know I will not get away with holding out my own concoctions, however exquisite or pleasing to the eye. The only hope in heaven I’ll have is Jesus, the One who God gave to preserve us forever with Him.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. ~ Psalm 23:6

Our Easter

This Easter is unlike any Easter I have experienced in my lifetime. Most people living at this point in history have never had their lives disrupted by a pandemic and had to celebrate without loved ones. Many I know have lived comfortable, predictable, safe lives. Now, many of us are figuring out first-hand what it feels like to not feel in control (we were never really in control) and not feel safe.

It’s not comfortable. It’s not easy. And we aren’t accustomed to it.

Despite how difficult the COVID-19 adjustment has been, I am inspired by the myriad of ways those around me are helping others during this crisis. Some of you are making meals for the sick, some are shopping for neighbors, family, or friends in need, others are keeping us well-informed. Some are sending encouraging text messages or emails, others are setting up prayer meetings or zoom calls, and others are checking in on their friends on the daily.

Our medical staff is using their training to care for and heal the sick, and the teachers have pivoted to teach and support our children online. Neighboring children are writing colorful chalk messages of hope on the pavements. My son’s in-laws are making fabric masks and helping collect items for the food bank.

As unique as we are wired, we will also uniquely go through this time. We will use our various giftings in individual ways, and it will be marvelous to witness humanity rising to the call. But let’s also remind ourselves that just because one person isn’t doing what you’re doing, or what I’m doing, it doesn’t mean they aren’t doing what they should be—or need to be—doing right now.

This is a collective hardship and we will each approach it differently. What appears a looming mountain for one may look like a rolling meadow for another. That might mean that doing a load of laundry and making dinner was what they could do today. If another is highly productive during this time, for them, keeping busy may be their way of coping.

For some, this break may feel like a much-needed vacation—a wonderful improvement from their former harried pace. For others, it may seem like not much has changed. For others, this may stir up feelings of unease and anxiety.

Let’s not judge one another based on our own ideas of what we deem right but accept and help one another. Let’s celebrate the myriad of ways we will traverse through this and the limitless creativity that will be exhibited by our fellow humans in the process. Let’s be kind and patient with each other’s shortcomings, and the ways we find we can—or cannot—cope. Let’s ramp up the love and care for one another and overlook the rest.

Mariana, Kiki and Monty at Cottage
We have been blessed to have my son, daughter-in-law, and grandson with us during this time.

This Easter, and this week, as we care for those around us, I hope we will also take some time to pause and reflect on the One who taught us how to love and who offers hope. One who came to heal us both on the outside but more importantly on the inside. One who gave his life to give us life. Who conquered death and rose from the grave to give us a fresh start. And though the way we celebrate may look a bit different, the reason we do so remains unchanged.

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Cozy, quiet morning reflections.

“And walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” John 15:13

 

 

Prayer for Today

Today has been declared a National Day of Prayer in the USA. Prayer is powerful. Imagine a whole country—a whole world—collectively praying. I have witnessed the power of prayer in my own life and in the lives of others. Though I’m Canadian, I join our neighbors in the US and share my offering below. Won’t you join me in praying in the midst of this health crisis?

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Lord our God,

We come into your presence with thankful hearts for your tender mercies and lavish kindness. We are grateful for your unfailing care and love. We are thankful that you never leave us or forsake us, and will never do so, especially in our time of great need. 

Despite the chaos we see and hear and experience in the natural world, we also understand and are reminded that you are still in control and haven’t left us or forsaken us. 

We confess our fear and worry and release it to you. In its place, we take your peace and find our comfort and rest in you. Please fill our troubled hearts and minds with your presence. 

We are grateful that you are our provider and have given us all we need. We confess that we have so often taken your provision for granted, behaving self-sufficiently as though we are the ones in control. Please forgive us and have mercy on us. Teach us greater trust in you. Continue reading “Prayer for Today”

I’m Almost a Grandma!

I’m about to become a first-time grandma. Even as I type this, I can hardly believe it. Since our son wed a year and four months ago, it feels as though time has unfolded like a map falling open all at once and I’m fumbling to neatly fold and navigate my sped-up life. One wedding, two published books, three grown kids relocated, one child attending ‘real’ school, and one grandchild, well… almost. 

Mariana and Me
Mariana and I – Christmas 2019

And now a grandma. Me? Already? Woah! Can we dial back this getting older thing a tad? I’m honestly thrilled at the prospect of having a grandchild, although I really do NOT appreciate the title (I am currently taking suggestions for other names). It’s just that some things happen sooner than you expect. I’m feeling vastly underprepared. I thought I’d be a stronger knitter by now and possibly NOT simultaneously have an eleven-year-old child still under our roof. 

All joking aside, there’s profound beauty in the fact that Mariana, our daughter-in-love, is pregnant. Before I explain why, a small sidebar. Mariana is an absolute treasure. Oddly enough, it struck me she was possibly ‘the one’ for Kurtis even while he was dating someone else (I know that sounds weird, but it happened). On the day of this uncanny revelation, I quietly mentioned to God in my prayer journal that if she happened to be the one for Kurtis could He (God) just sort that out. Then I stayed out of it. 

Mariana Pregnant

As it turned out, three and a half months later, without my uttering a word, Kurtis and Mariana began dating. Apparently, she too, even while he was dating someone else, thought that they were meant for each other. Around the same time I was scrawling in my prayer journal, Mariana was confidently relaying to her girlfriend that one day Kurtis was going to be her husband. 

The beauty in this story is compounded by the fact that Mariana learned she had cancer at age fourteen and spent the next three years fighting for her life. That sort of near-death experience makes you approach life differently—you tend not to take it for granted. 

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Mariana holding the book Our New Normal which includes her cancer story.

With this bold approach to her second crack at life, and armed from the get-go with a peculiar assurance that Kurtis was going to be her husband, she didn’t hesitate to tell him she loved him on their first date. She maintains Kurtis is her best cancer perk because if she hadn’t gotten cancer, she would never have been homeschooled and would not have met him at the homeschool co-op they attended.

It is also profoundly beautiful that Mariana is pregnant because it’s only six years since her body suffered and survived the ravaging effects of cancer and chemo. Ironically, she had her last cancer check-up while already pregnant. To me—grandmother title denial aside—Montgomery (their soon to be born baby) is a miracle—a sacred life birthed out of a saved life. 

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Kurtis and Mariana

And I can’t help but think this story is also our story. 

Our lives were also snatched from death’s grip. We may not have had cancer, but our sin was eating us alive. We had no hope in hell that when we die, we would make it into heaven… but for Jesus. He knew we couldn’t manage to conquer death, so he gave his life in place of ours. He was the substitute and paid our sin-debt on the cross to secure life-eternal and more abundant life here and now. 

So, I guess the question is, what are we doing with our second chance at life, and how are we making a difference to the sacred lives around us? 

While you think about that, I’ll be over here writing (or knitting) from my rocking chair with spectacles perched on my nose!

(Un)Tidy Christmas

christmas-tree-e1576380559953.jpgYou’ve heard me bemoan it before, my propensity to be imperfectly tidy. I admire organized living environments, but, being a recovering perfectionist, I’ve never quite managed the feat. 

I blame it on my artistic side that dominates the majority of my endeavors. I’d rather write a blog (or an entire novel), paint a painting, or plant untold numbers of flowers before applying the Marie Kondo Method to a closet or dragging a vacuum around a room. 

Being the Christmas season, I think about the birth of Jesus. If I gaze at the serene nativity on our side table, I’m tempted to see tidy. In reality, the whole thing was messy and imperfect. No planned pregnancy, no elaborate travel itinerary to Bethlehem, no opulent hotel reservations, not even a sanitary spot to deliver a baby.  Continue reading “(Un)Tidy Christmas”

O To Be Like My Christmas Tree!

Christmas Tree FarmThis past weekend we made our annual trek to the Christmas tree farm. My husband is a pro at determining whether the tree is a suitable height to fit beneath our 10′ ceilings. This is important because trees always look a lot smaller in the field… until you get them home.

Once we heaved this one through the front door and it relaxed in its new environment, its boughs rather reminded me of Father Christmas’ midsection. I’m sitting beside the fully-decorated tree as I write. Its girth is like an extroverted Enneagram Type Three in my space, its expansive boughs making quite a statement. Continue reading “O To Be Like My Christmas Tree!”